How to switch off after an argument and before bed!
In times of heightened emotion, suppressing thoughts can keep you raging. You need to process them thoroughly in order to return to neutral.
“Studies have shown that writing down thoughts and feelings is a cathartic exercise and reprocesses memories,” explains Professor Cropley. But don’t stew on them: “Once you’ve got it all out, rip it up and throw it away.”
Dr Hal Shorey, a psychologist at Widener University, Pennsylvania, says the golden rule to making up after an argument is to wait until you are both no longer upset before talking.
Get into the habit of switching off your phone after work or, at the very least, your emails. The daily bombardment of information from texts, emails and social media takes up neural resources and causes ‘decision fatigue’ according to neuroscientist Daniel Levitin in his new book, The Organised Mind.
Instead, he recommends checking emails in concerted clumps, just two or three times a day, rather than as they come in. Also, contrary to popular belief, jotting down midnight worries may be a stimulant, rather than a relaxant. “It’s a subconscious prompt to thinking about work, instead, he says, you need to learn how to ‘park that thought’ – dedicate a strict ten minutes to thinking about something then agree to return to it the next day when you are calmer.” Also, if you often find you’re waking in the middle of the night worrying, it may be because you lay in bed worrying before you first drifted off so sleep so experts advise getting up and doing something else, in another room, until you’re feeling sleepy. This helps to keep negative thoughts out of the bedroom.